How To Talk To Girls

Never talked to a woman before and you really don’t know how to talk to girls? We doubt that. But we do believe that you may be one of those guys who falls into that “uncomfortable” category when it comes to speaking to beautiful ladies. Considering that, we’d like to give you the pleasure of having a play-by-play game plan of how to handle a conversation with a woman, and keep them coming back for more. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to become a true ladies man. Ok, maybe not a ladies man, but a man who knows how to speak the language of women.

First things first, if you made it to the point where you are actually engaging in conversation with the woman, you have at least mastered, on a very basic level, how to attract women. But of course, attracting them is only half of the battle. Consider attracting the woman equivalent to getting the interview; you looked good enough in the preliminary rounds, but now it’s time to get down to business. The question of the day is: do you really know enough about how to speak/flirt with females? Right now the honest answer is no, but after reading this breakdown, you should be in a much better position to win over the woman of your dreams.

The good news is, you’ve made it far enough along in the process to take her out to dinner. The not so good news might be that at dinner, unlike dates like the movies or where an activity is involved, the activity is talking. If you want to ensure that you position yourself for many more conversations, take heed to the info that follows on having a great and captivating conversation with ladies. If your goal is simply to have a conversation with a woman, then we’re sure that you can muster up a plan to do that on your own. But if your plan is to not only talk to women, but to peak an interest in them for you that is relentless, then you definitely want to take note.

The scenario. You and your female friend were just seated at your favorite restaurant. You order your cocktails, appetizers and entrees and now, its time for the conversation to commence. Of course your palms are sweaty and your hearts is racing, but trust us, we can get you through this. Visualize this scenario:

At the very beginning of the conversation, compliment your female friend on how nice she looks. You don’t have to over-saturate her with compliments, but make it a point to let her know that you’re taking notice. As an immediate follow up, ask her about how her day went and genuinely mean it. As she talks to you, make eye contact, smile and show her that she is the center of your attention.

As the conversation proceeds, be sure to spend some time talking about yourself. After you ask about her day, she’ll more than likely ask you about yours, but if she doesn’t, volunteer a recap of your day. Doing this shows her that you’re not only a good listener, but that you also have some depth to you. If you feel that your day wasn’t eventful enough, or maybe even too eventful to discuss on a first date, feel free to bring up a current event or maybe even pop culture to keep the conversation going. When dealing with how to talk to girls, showing them that you’re interested in something other than the typical sports will definitely earn you points.

In between your bites of food and sips of your cocktail, be sure to keep things neat. No matter how good that steak might be, please be sure to use your napkin often. Nothing is more unattractive to a woman than a man who has A1 sauce caked in the corner of his mouth.  Keep it neat, big guy, and you’ll be that much closer to learning how to flirt with women.

As the night goes on, and you’re keeping it neat (wink), give your female friend some insight into your life. Of course, if anything significantly tragic has occurred in your life, feel free to leave that out of the conversation. Information on your parents, siblings, children, where you’re from, and the schools (high school and college) that you went to, all falls under the category of safe topics and would actually allow you and your female friend to bond; especially if you are from the same general area. Discussing your histories and childhood could add an additional spark to your conversation and get you that much closer to becoming a full blown expert on how to talk the women. All it takes is a spark – if you do that successfully, the rest is history.

Taking strolls down memory lane are always a plus. Taking such strolls allows your female friend to loosen up, let her guard down a bit, and really share some things about her that will give you more of a perspective on her. As you notice your friend letting her guard down, don’t be afraid to use subtle body language to tell your friend how you really feel about her. A soft touch on the arm here, a gentle hand hold there, let’s the woman know that you are completely interested in who she is and what she is saying.

Knowing how to flirt is a delicate, yet integral part of getting to know a woman. It’s not simply because women like to talk, but because women really reveal who they are and what they stand for when conversing.  On the flip side of that, the conversation is also an essential part to showing the woman that you’re an insightful, intelligent, attentive and well-rounded conversationalist. If your goal is to knock her socks off and score another date, be open, be honest, be flirty, be charming and moreover, be honest. Nothing turns a woman on more than a man who’s macho enough to put all of his attention on you, but in touch enough to share some of his more sensitive moments. Now that’s how to talk to girls.